Adoption

So, I should have named this future adoption because people are probably clicking on this thinking that we are starting the process. But, we aren’t. I just simply wanted to write about my desire for the future and what I feel the Lord has led us to do.

You know you have those things in your life that just keep coming up and keep tugging at your heart. You don’t know why, but you just can’t let the thought go. There were two things like that for me:

  • Living in New York City
  • Adopting a baby of another race

SO WHY YOU GOTTA MAKE IT ABOUT RACE KATIE?

Yea, I know. That shouldn’t matter. It’s not that I’m against adopting a little white baby (of course not), but that’s just not the vision the Lord has laid on my heart.

I’ve read a lot of books on families that have adopted. I follow tons of bloggers who have adopted. I know there are many different ways. I know that it’s very expensive.

Teresa is a blogger at www.hugsandpunches.com who probably knows just how much I love her family dynamic by now <3 I love following her blog and family! (2 of her own, 4 from ethiopia)

Teresa is a blogger at www.hugsandpunches.com who probably knows just how much I love her family dynamic by now <3 I love following her blog and family! (2 of her own, 4 from ethiopia)

Sometimes, my heart starts to wonder, “Lord, are you giving me this desire because I am infertile?” Yall, I’m terrified of that. That’s not my desire either. I want both biologic and adopted. My dream is to have my own, and then to adopt, but Tanner and I have talked and prayed and the Lord has given us a peace that if this feeling that we have comes true, then we are okay with that too.

I’m no pro on the process of this. I am open for any comments or advice for those that have. I have spoken with many people about their experience, and I’m gonna be honest with the reaction I get many times for those that haven’t adopted:

“Don’t do it, Katie”

I honestly hate when people tell me this. They give me lines such as “well you never know what you’ll get”, “What if something’s wrong?”, “What if they aren’t accepted?”

What? Just what? No.

What if something is wrong? –Well then they are my baby and always will be at that point. Wanna know the response I get every time from someone who has adopted?

“100% do it. It was the best decision of my life.”

I hate race topics. They actually kinda make me nervous. People get really upset over them, and it’s so prevalent in our world right now that I just avoid all talk on it. However, I wanted to tell you what I think about diversity.

Heaven.

“On Earth as it is in heaven.”

I have this picture saved on my phone and not sure where I found it, but it just melts my heart.

I have this picture saved on my phone and not sure where I found it, but it just melts my heart.

I remember one time in high school and I was in an integrated church service. Let me be frank with you. I grew up in a 100% white church. I never thought about it that way. It’s just the way it was. There was a family visiting. The mom and dad were white. The babies were black.

During the service, the dad looks down at his daughter and she smiles the sweetest smile at him and he whispers down “I love you princess” and she grabs his hand. I remember having tears in my eyes looking at this large white hand holding this little black girls hand and thinking “this is what the love of Jesus looks like”.  It’s a love that can’t see colors or races or genders or body shapes or anything. It’s a love across all borders.

As time has went on, we have talked about what race we would adopt? Chinese? African? Overseas? Local? Foster?  Each time we wonder, we literally have no clear answers on what we want. We just know we will know when that time comes.

We met a friend in New York City, and his name is Andrew. He spoke to us about the economic diversity of the Philippines where he is from. {{Side Note: he’s SUCH an incredible servant to the Lord. We are so very lucky to have become best friends with him}} I know this is common in many nations but the rich are rich there and the poor are very poor. So personally, my heart is just set now on adopting from the Philippines {have you seen how beautiful Philippinos are? HA!} but of course I have no idea if that will play out for sure.

We had a precious other friend in NYC named Soojin. She was adopted approximately at 9 months old, and doesn’t even have an official birthdate. However, she speaks on how the Lord has literally pursued her through her entire journey, and I just love hearing her story of adoption and then birth in Jesus.

I have also spoken with a friend of mine who has adopted babies out of foster care.  She has the most precious family and was able to adopt a brother and a sister both from birth. Sometimes children are taken from parents before the child is even born (kinda sad) and apparently there is a large need in my own backyard (Shelby).  I am not someone who is hooked on overseas adoption and I know it’s much more expensive so we are going to pray about it and see where the Lord leads our hearts.

http://childrenofallnations.com/summer-hosting-adoption-scholarships/ PLEASE just look at these cute little boys from the Philippines! <3 

http://childrenofallnations.com/summer-hosting-adoption-scholarships/

PLEASE just look at these cute little boys from the Philippines! <3 

My dream/vision is having two of my own and adopting two but honestly, everyone I know that has a child recently has said I’ll change my mind and I know they know better. Haha!! Babies are NOT easy! I KNOW that. But they are also worth it and so rewarding.

Right now, I’m living in a back bedroom of my mom’s house and need a house so let’s start with step 1. Haha! ;) 

With love and adoption,

Katie

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