This is always something that I get asked, but also something that is really hard to put into words. I have done some research on this and I wanted to hit you with some goods today. I am a highly motivated person. I don't say that arrogantly and if anything, I say that as a flaw because I'm motivated that much. I pray about this often and I try to switch my motivation into motivation to be a better person for others and not just myself. It feels greedy to just want to accomplish all these things for none other than myself, so I try really hard to make time for family and pouring love into meals for my husband and times spent with friends.
Anyway, how do you stay motivated? According to research, there really are some people that are born with it and some people that are not, intrinsically. I can remember from a VERY early age (like as young as 5) and having goals for things that I wanted to accomplish in my life, and it's so funny because some of the keys were:
- Have a tiny dog (Check)
- Become a doctor (Check)
- Run a marathon (Check)
- Get married in the church I grew up in(Check)
- Play a sport collegiately (I cheered in college)
- Read lots and lots of books (I haven't really done as much as I want to)
So, I believe that I was born with it. However, that does not mean that you can't find it. There are a few simple tricks that I think are helpful.
1. What is your reasoning for any goal that you have?
First, you need to lay this out. You need to write it out. This isn't the specific goal, but the WHY behind it. You always here companies talk about "Find your why" and it's so cheesy but really, do you want to lose weight just for external purposes? That's okay but just make sure that you know within your heart the reasons that you want to do something. Have you always wanted to become a runner? Do you want to be a better example for your children?
2. What is your plan of action?
If you are having trouble sticking to something, get out a planner and a pen and get to work. When I'm feeling unmotivated, I plan things. I look to see when my next race is, and I look to see what my scheduling for workouts is, and I know that I have to do X Y and Z to get to that point. If you are struggling with something internally that is bigger than just a goal (such as possibly binge eating) then I always say that it's really important to have a plan of action whens something might happen that is just a repetition of history that you know is self destructive. You have to have tools so that you aren't just left blindsided.
This is such an amazing source of motivation for everyone, and all you have to do is search workout motivation and you're well on your way to feeling like you are a professional athlete or aspiring to be. It's quite comical how jacked up I will get after watching motivational videos, so I'll go ahead and link one up for fun and get ready because you're about to MAKE SOMETHING OF YOURSELF!!! LEGGO!
4. Do not base your goals on limitations that society has placed on you
You are told that you can't do this, and that this isn't possible or that isn't possible! You are told that your circumstances or your capacity limits that, and that is just bull. You have all the potential that you need to create whomever you choose you want to be. If you don't know who the Iron Cowboy is, I think he puts the hammer down on this specific one. He just completed something that no one ever thought possible: he complete 50 ironmans in 50 days in 50 states consecutively. This was not for some personal gain? This was to raise awareness and to simply show his children that you can be anyone or anything that you set your mind to. You just put one foot in front of the other every day.
5. You are not destined to be at whatever place you are at now
No. Absolutely not. You may have disease states that limit you or genetics that hold you back but at the end of the day, that is no reason to give up...at all. That is a reason to show everyone that you can fight harder.
6. Write down your short term and long term goals
I always have an ongoing list. The short term goals should be the ones that you can forseeably do in the next 6 months, and then from there, you can build on things that you want to complete in the future. Every day is a walking step towards those goals.
To end, I think the first thing that you can do on jumping on the motivation train is that you have to first DO IT. Like the very first week or two weeks is going to be the hardest and then you get in a groove and the momentum keeps coming. If you just sink into your couch with cheetos and Netflix, then it's just going to be a cycle that's really hard to break. You have to want it. You can't have me write a blog post for you that's going to change the internal and your life, but it's all up to you. Just remember though that you have the capacity to change anything and everything into the person that you want to be, and there is nothing stopping you from doing that not starting next Monday but starting today. I'm not specifically referencing health and fitness but so many other things as well. It's the start of a new school year so what better time then to put your best foot forward. That doesn't mean that you are going to be the best, but you personally can be the best version of yourself if you want it.
Sit down, write out your goals, your why, and your action plan and you can even send them to me in a email as accountability!!! I want this for you just as badly because it is such an incredible and empowering feeling to do what you set out to do, putting all that you have into something, even if you fail, and knowing that you tried your best.
With love and motivation,