So, I don't know why but this has been on my mind this week...
Have y'all ever noticed that we all live life based on the agenda that everyone else wants us to live. We go to elementary school, middle, high school then we go to college. We get a job after we get our degrees where we have student debt. We get married, we settle, we buy a house, and then we have kids. Granted, I know that it doesn't fall that way for everyone but it's this expectation that that is the way that life should and will go.
There's a new wave in millennials that we want to try to break the 9-5 job and if you can create another job then that's fantastic. I believe that we all have certain skills that we can offer to everyone and I would pay different people on their different knowledge base and don't care one bit if they clock their 9-5. I hate that expectation. We literally waste our lives away at work living for the weekends. But then, the millennials are looked at like we are selfish and just want to have everything and won't work for anything. Our parents and our grandparents have slaved away for 40 years, and that's our expectation too.
When did this start? WHY DID THIS BECOME?
Think about what you love most in the world? Think about the one thing that makes your heart come alive and beat strong! Why aren't you doing it right now? Probably because you are reading my blog before you go clock your hours to be able to pay the bills and do that thing that you love every once in a while. I know that nothing will ever change about this, but I can't stand that.
Think about what you have in your box of skills? Why can't you create something out of that that people would want to pay for so that you could live the life that you have always imagined for yourself? I'm not saying that I have this thing figured out because I certainly don't. I just happen to be working a job that I adore, and I'm so grateful for that but I mean more than that. Why does it even always come back to jobs?
Why am I pressured that it's time for me to have children? I want children-many of them-but I want to explore this world first. I also think that I would love living in Utah or Colorado and running all the trials but why would it be considered absolutely insane if I was to up and go do that. Like legit, my family might would lose their minds at my craziness. BUT WHY? And I don't mean that to my family. I just mean the world. Sometimes I think that I want to go over to Haiti for a year and do mission work, but the reason that I stop myself from thinking about it is the expectation that I know I have to uphold.
"People would think I'm nuts!"
I have no good answer for this. I wish I could say that I stopped listening to what was expected of me in society and just did what I wanted, but that's not true.
I've never thought of myself as a free spirit, but I want so badly sometimes to just take a bag, pack it up and just do a year long exploration of the United States and the world. I kind of want to do this to break down the barriers of what is "allowed". WHY is it considered out of the ordinary?
WHY OH WHY are we all just slaving day in and day out because of the need to make a dollar. Why are parents missing out on their children's lives in order to slave away? I also don't mean to be unrealistic here. We have to make money to provide for our families and be responsible adults. I get it. But, I just wish that there were more ways to do that where we all could genuinely do something that we enjoyed and didn't spend 90% of our lives with people who aren't our families and positions that we don't like.
I might change my mind on this but Tanner and I have even said that we don't mind our kids taking a year after high school to go do back packing around Europe or something. I jumped right into wanting to get into pharmacy school, slaving away because I had to do XYZ to fit into what I knew I was supposed to be in this pinnacle of what "success" looked like to me.
For me, I just want to live a life of purpose and passion and not about what is expected of me based on things that really don't even matter in the long run. I hope that this encourages you to take a leap of faith and do the same. What would the world look like if we all did this?