One of the most common themes that I saw for 2018 goals was that people weren't going to make any, and while I totally understand the sentiment, I also just wanted to delve into my personal opinion on what constitutes something that is healthy and something that is not.
At the end of the day, I've realized over time that everyone is so drastically different and to put everyone in the same box and say that we shouldn't make goals because that's too much pressure and to just love ourselves as we are is not taking into account the enjoyment that some get out of setting new goals. Obviously, we all know I'm a dreamer and goal setter and have been since the ripe age of 5. I can remember making long reading lists, and would sit down on Saturdays at 6am to start reading through it from such a young age. I would get books from my brother in math and science and study them before I got to his grade. It didn't help all that much. I'm not all that smart, to be honest, so this isn't a humble brag but just that I've always enjoyed learning and setting new goals for myself. One is not better than the other, and I guess that's the point. (Note: There is no need to tell me how smart I am. I'm not putting myself down. I'm speaking objectively in terms of IQ. lol.)
Sometimes, contrary to what others might believe, setting goals are FUN for some. It doesn't feel heavy. It doesn't feel like pressure. It doesn't make me hate myself, but it makes me hustle in a fun new way. Every school year, if you were like me, you would get all of your 3 ring binders together, organized with the little dividers, and long for the assignments that the teachers would give you that would be super intense. Sometimes, you would get head deep into those assignments and wonder why it was that you thought this would be enjoyable. That's literally exactly how I feel with my big marathon and ironman goals.
It can be hard. It makes me question what I'm doing when I'm in the mundane 5am alarm clock ringing, but then I get to the end and I remember why I do it. I get to the beginning of a new season and it's the reason that I set out with the new huge goals.
I think that we all need to take our individual spirits into account because not everyone is like me. My parents had to tie my brother down into a chair just to get him to even begin his homework, and that was from kindergarten. He just wasn't interested, and I think that we force societal pressures too much on what the XYZ box looks like for those people. It might not look like it does for me. That doesn't make me right. That doesn't make you wrong, but it doesn't make you right either . haha! We are all just .. different.
With the internet, everyone shares their opinions, as I'm doing now, and I think that if we are able to sit back and think about that person then we can understand from the things that they have went through and the life that they have lived why they feel the way that they do but if someone says that THEIR WAY is the only way that everyone should follow then I think that it should be reconsidered and evaluated because that's just not how the world works.
Don't be afraid to say. "I refuse to make goals this year. It gives me too much pressure and anxiety" but also be okay with saying "HECK YES! I'M A GOAL SETTER! LET'S DO THIS!"
If your goals come out of self loathing then they need to be evaluated. Are you taking care of yourself mentally and physically (truly)? If your goals are simply out of just the desire to hit new goals and challenge yourself then by all means, go for it sister. I love life but I tend to get sucked into the day to day and not really moving forward unless I set those goals. When I set goals, I work towards them and over time I'm able to get things done. My husband gets things done without setting goals, and sometimes I wonder if that's not the better way but we have realized we sharpen one another in our individual imperfections and strengths and slowly move towards the people we want to become.
I'm just here to be the voice to say that it's okay to do a self check in each direction. Are my goals too heavy? Are my goals out of love for myself? Am I not setting goals because that's the trendy thing to do? And if so, is it okay to move forward with what I wanted to challenge myself with this year?
I did a poll on my instagram about some different health and fitness related topics in relation to how we approach fitness whether it be for body image or for a sport that we play and I actually found the answers very interesting on what motivates us, and would love to touch on that in the next blog! Stay tuned ;)
HAPPY NEW YEAR WEEK! It's my favorite time of the year!